I (35f) am a plastic surgeon, I went through years of medical school and residency but it was worth it, I originally started med school with the hopes of going into Psychiatry but surgery really interested me.
The problem started years ago when I first told my family that I was going into plastic surgery because it was what interests me the most, my parents, siblings and brother-in-law were all supportive and whenever I felt like giving up they were always there to push me.
But a lot of my other family members weren't as supportive, my aunts always made snide comments about it as well as my cousins, uncles and grandparents on both sides, they were all happy when they knew I was in med school but completely flipped when they found out I was pursuing plastic surgery.
It annoyed me at first but I learned just to move on from it. But recently my cousin (40f) on my dad's side, who's the daughter of the aunt who keeps making comments about my job, done a PLC on nursing and child care, which didn't bother me I couldn't care less what she does, but my aunt thought I should know everything that's happening with her daughter.
Every time I see her she goes on about how smart her daughter is and how amazing she is for doing a PLC in nursing and child care, but the last time I saw her she said something that really annoyed me. Me and my sister were over at her house because she had some hand-me-downs to give to my nephew, we were all eating when she said “it's great that she's going into medical school (she's not she doesn't even have the brains for medical school) maybe we can finally have a REAL doctor in the family.”
I sat there in silence for a second thinking what the f*** is she even talking about? And then looked at my sister who looked equally as pissed off as me, I snapped back and said “her changing kids as soiled pants does not make her a doctor and her knowing how to clean a cut doesn't either. She's not in medical school she's too dumb for that. She wouldn't even last a week before dropping out” my aunt looked really pissed off and yelled at me for being rude and then she told me I wasn't much of a doctor either. I yelled back at her that I went through years of med school and residency and then I'm a licensed doctor and surgeon and that she doesn't know what she's talking about.
My aunt started crying and left the room so me and my sister just left. A few hours later I got a text from my cousin calling me a for what I said and “attacking” her mom, I got more texts from other family members and it somehow traveled to my mom's side of the family as well.
Majority of them are telling me to apologize for yelling at my aunt but my immediate family (mom, dad ,brother, sister-in-law's, girlfriend) are telling me not to. Now I'm going to be shunned by both sides of the family and they're all refusing to talk to me and won't even let me tell my side of the story.
So was I the a-hole now?
Thank You!
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